With less than two weeks to go until the big day, I don't feel any different. Someone asked me yesterday if I was getting nervous, and I had to give a vague answer. I really don't feel nervous. Don't get me wrong, I am happy and excited about the ceremony and the party afterwards, but I'm more looking forward to taking that next step with my soon-to-be husband. It seems like because we've been together for so long (5+ years), the only thing that'll change will be the legalization of our union. I feel like nothing will change, and it's hard to put into words that people won't take the wrong way. And because we've been together for so long, it annoys me when those same people asking the questions about our wedding and are so interesting in the planning give marital advice. "Oh, just wait. Everything will change when you're married." "He does that for you now, but wait until you're married. He won't do any of those sweet little gestures for you for much longer."
It makes me want to scream sometimes, because 1. You are not us. You don't have the relationship we do, and each couple is different. 2. In some cases, the people giving us this "advice" have certain cultural differences from us, which affects their view on relationships, or they have been together for less time than we have. This isn't to say that they don't know more than we do about marriage, but let US do us.
It's so annoying when these people don't really know us, and pretend to know everything there is to know about marriage. I know they might mean well, but it gets old after a while.
I am almost more excited about going home after not being there for the past two years. I get to relax and not thing about work for a solid two weeks, and hopefully come back rested and a little less bitchy than I normally am.
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